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Changing Direction


Making Scary Decisions

Walking a new path in life can be scary, it might be that we eagerly want to walk this new path, or it could be that we are terrified about what lies ahead of us.  The emotions we feel come from the circumstances surrounding this decision, you see we can all get stuck in a rut or just too comfortable with life.

What was right for us a few years ago, might not be right for us now, in this moment.  There is nothing wrong with admitting that you have made mistakes – to be honest it probably makes us appear more human and approachable.  Nobody likes someone who thinks they are right all the time. In my professional life I have met some really obstinate individuals, similarly, I have dealt with some really compassionate individuals who would jump through hoops to help you.

We all make decisions based on the information that is in front of us, sometimes we get it right, and then other times we get it wrong.  The important thing is to know when its time to change direction and make different plans.

Tips for Changing Direction

  1. Know what makes you happy / unhappy
  2. Be aware of who is in your genuine support circle
  3. Understand what your skills truly are (no kidding here)
  4. Be realistic about what you can ask for and expect in return
  5. Know how much you are willing to give in order to get what you want

Life is a trade, its about a fair exchange.  For example if I do a job, I expect to be paid fairly for the work and effort I have put in.  The key is about the communication beforehand so you know what to expect in return for your efforts and what the other person puts a value on.  My values will be totally different from your values, so its about meeting in the middle (where possible) and working together.

Not everyone is going to work well together or be a team (business or personal lives), sometimes you meet people and (lets be honest) instantly dislike them, but you cannot pinpoint why.  When I worked as a Consultant, I used to be faced with hostility quite a lot, dreading when I needed to go into the client office, and I have no understanding why.  Thing is, it doesn’t matter, the other person’s emotions are not my concern, I cannot control them and I certainly can’t impact them, the only thing you can do in that situation is remove yourself.  Know when you are banging your head against a brick wall.

Try not to get too comfortable in life, expand your horizons at every opportunity.  Life is constantly evolving and we need to keep moving or we will get left behind.  If something feels scary its because it is pushing you outside your comfort zone.  There is a big difference between pushing you outside your comfort zone (for the greater good) or feeling in your gut that something or someone is wrong for you.  The important thing, in my opinion, is to constantly grow as a person.  I can tell you honestly I am not the same person I was 2 years ago, life changes us, but I am so grateful that I trusted my gut and took several leaps of faith.

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Louise Wightman is a Business Coach at Approach The Coach, she lives in Kilmarnock, East Ayrshire and has a mad passion for self-improvement and positive mental attitude.  Approach The Coach offers mentoring, business coaching and digital marketing training.  Our sister company Digital Business Solutions offers all technical website solutions, ideal for a Micro or SME sized business.  Please connect with us using the social media icons at the top of the screen.





Originally posted 2016-06-07 12:08:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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